Hi, I need everyones input on this one. I am looking for something very special that Giorgia and I can do to honor her birthmother. Can you please post your thoughts/ideas on this, whatever they maybe. Thanks. Stephe
We haven't really done much of anything and I don't know that we will unless Eliza initiates something in the future. As a side note, Eliza is MUCH more interested in her birth father at this point, so I would say if you come up with something for birth mother celebration, maybe consider her birth father as well.
I bought a beautiful carved wooden box in China. Each year I am going to have Chloe make her a Mother's Day card (when she is old enough to understand). We are going to save them in the box along with photos and anything else she wants to save. Just in case that one day we do find her.
Stephe as you know we plan to celabrate this year at the beach and I am sure we will do the same in years to come. We are planning on floating two white roses in the water one for Sophia's birth mother and the other for her foster mother. I want to acknowladge that she had 2 other mothers before me. I like the idea of also planting a tree or a flower and honoring her birth father also...
I also think it is important to honor both her birth parents - but not too dramatically. I worry it could make her insecure or rebellious if there is TOO much emphasis. But something simple like lighting a special candle for each of them (on Giorgia's birthday) that you keep out that day and then put away til next year would be beautiful and honoring.
Happy Mother's Day! I like the lighting of special candles on her birthday and on Mother's Day. I finally got Julia's blog going with a lot of help from Donna. www.Julia'shome4ever.blogspot.com
I've been trying to figure this our also - feels like we should do something both on Nora's birthday and on Mother's Day, but I still haven't figured out what that should be.
Before Nora's birthday I asked our agency if they knew of some charity that benefitted women in China (something that would help more mothers be able to keep their babies), but they didn't have any suggestions for me.
I'll be interested in what you and Giorgia decide to do. Have a wonderful first Mother's Day!
We light a candle the day before Mother's Day so that she honors her first (and I get Mother's Day with her - is that too selfish?). We light candles for those in our family who have passed, so AA's birth Mother (not known if alive or not) will have a candle lit. Happy Mother's Day!
I'm a single mom with an amazing daughter! It all started when I decided I was tired of waiting to be a mom. In my search to find a little girl who needed a mommy I was led to the China International Adoption program. I actually started the process in 2005, got my paperwork to China on 1/13/06. China accepted my paperwork and gave an LID of 2/18/06. After waiting 33 months, I finally received my referral on 11/5/08 for the most beautiful baby in the world. She spent her first 11 months in Southern China just above the South China Sea and now she is home with her mama!! I hope you enjoy reading & looking at my blog as much as I enjoyed creating it. During the wait I was a research junkie for all thing IA so please check out all the links in the sidebar under "Find it Here"...it will show you the posts pertaining to that category. Best wishes to all. Stephe
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Maybe an annual donation on G's birthday to "The Half the Sky" foundation? Or planting some kind of annual flower or tree each year in your yard?
We haven't really done much of anything and I don't know that we will unless Eliza initiates something in the future. As a side note, Eliza is MUCH more interested in her birth father at this point, so I would say if you come up with something for birth mother celebration, maybe consider her birth father as well.
I've heard some people let a balloon go with a note attached each year. Others light a special candle on special days (Mother's day, child's bday)/
I bought a beautiful carved wooden box in China. Each year I am going to have Chloe make her a Mother's Day card (when she is old enough to understand). We are going to save them in the box along with photos and anything else she wants to save. Just in case that one day we do find her.
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Stephe as you know we plan to celabrate this year at the beach and I am sure we will do the same in years to come. We are planning on floating two white roses in the water one for Sophia's birth mother and the other for her foster mother. I want to acknowladge that she had 2 other mothers before me. I like the idea of also planting a tree or a flower and honoring her birth father also...
I know that mine is a little bit different but my sons family planted a tree for me and every year they have breakfast under the tree.
I also think it is important to honor both her birth parents - but not too dramatically. I worry it could make her insecure or rebellious if there is TOO much emphasis. But something simple like lighting a special candle for each of them (on Giorgia's birthday) that you keep out that day and then put away til next year would be beautiful and honoring.
We honor both parents by releasing a white balloon with a note written on it to them about Catherine. We release it on her birthday.
We donate to Half the Sky for Mothers day
We plant a special flower - it could be a different type every year, but always an annual (we chose irises for the last two years).
I also like the idea of planting a bush or tree -- but if you ever move, it stays with the house!
Also, I had planned on writing a letter each year, but haven't done so. Maybe later...
When we say our nighttime prayers, on Fridays we pray for Frances' birthparents.
I wanted to wish you a very special Mother's Day! Enjoy!!!!
Kathie
Hi Stephe,
Happy Mother's Day! I like the lighting of special candles on her birthday and on Mother's Day. I finally got Julia's blog going with a lot of help from Donna. www.Julia'shome4ever.blogspot.com
Have a Great Day.
Diane
I've been trying to figure this our also - feels like we should do something both on Nora's birthday and on Mother's Day, but I still haven't figured out what that should be.
Before Nora's birthday I asked our agency if they knew of some charity that benefitted women in China (something that would help more mothers be able to keep their babies), but they didn't have any suggestions for me.
I'll be interested in what you and Giorgia decide to do. Have a wonderful first Mother's Day!
Jennifer K
We light a candle the day before Mother's Day so that she honors her first (and I get Mother's Day with her - is that too selfish?). We light candles for those in our family who have passed, so AA's birth Mother (not known if alive or not) will have a candle lit.
Happy Mother's Day!
Alyzabeth's Mommy
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