Daisypath Happy Birthday tickers Daisypath Happy Birthday tickers

Introducting Your Pet

1. For introducing baby to dogs: Take photos of dogs with you to China, and talk to the baby about the dogs, using the dogs' names, so she will be somewhat familiar with them when she gets home. This will be particularly important for us, because some of our dogs are large, and just the size of them might scare her at first.
(Just note that they don't have to look like pandas or be dressed in Asian garb for your child to fall in love with them.)

2. For introducing dogs to baby: When baby comes home, before bringing her inside, have one parent take inside a blanket or outfit that has baby's scent on it, and HOLDING THE BLANKET WITH BOTH ARMS (like a baby), present it to dogs. The dogs will likely recognize it has a human scent. Then bring baby in, also held in parents' arms, and let dogs see baby from a distance first, and gradually introduce them.
3. Dogs know who their masters are, usually based on who feeds them. Once your child is about 2 years old, slowly introduce her as the "treat-giver" and then the "dinner-feeder" when she is able to feed the proper amount of food to the dogs. As a junior "treat-giver" baby will hold the treat in her hand, but mom or dad will put their hand over baby's to deliver the treat, because dog knows mom and dad's hands, and to protect baby from the first few interactions with the dogs and food.

4. Do not to ever leave a baby unattended in the same room as a dog, no matter how small the dog.

Stork Sighting - #3

Stork Sighting - #1

Okay, let's try this again! In honor of my upcoming REFERRAL, I've created Giorgia's Asian Stork Tracker. There shouldbe no delays in the flight pattern this time and that take off from the mainland of China are begining. Lately we've seen recalled flights from the flight towers of CCAA. The reasons are unclearand and it happened to us last month. Our Stork was sent back to the nest to wait. Almost a month has gone by and it's that time again! Please join my blog everyday to see an update on where my G is!!! (Looking like Temple of Heaven today)

Barack & Palin

The wonders of Photoshop!!!

MATCHING ROOM

This is the infamous "Matching Room" at the CCAA. I wanted to tell you all a little bit about what is happening right now in China with my Dossier. Some of the text that will follow was found on RQ.


MATCHING In this final stage - families who have passed review are sent to the Matching Room. In this room are all the dossiers of children whose information has been sent by their SWIs to find them a forever family. The workers in this room have the very important task of matching the right family to each child. No one knows exactly how families are chosen for each child - but many people think that the CCAA workers are pretty amazing in how good a job they do.


How the Matching Room works...
First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they don't get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.

Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.


And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently it is believed that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.

Just as in the review room, each matcher is assigned certain agencies and is responsible for communicating with their agencies. Some matchers tell their agency the cut-off date, some matchers tell their agency “you have X number of referrals arriving”, some matchers give their agency a list of that agency’s families that will be receiving a referral. And some matchers don’t say anything at all to their agencies.


The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders.

And there you have it. Giorgia's little mug could be on one of these computers right next to my info waiting to be matched.

Oh, and as pointed out, sometimes there are similarities in the parents passport photo and the "mugshot: of my child.. So, for fun, here is my Passport photo. We'll have to compare on that fateful day!

It's gonna be C.O.L.D.



Coats.

Hats.

Gloves.

Scarves.

Blankets.

Long Undies.

Thermal Socks.

No Worries...

I'll still be there!

Toddler Bedtime Tips

By Stefanie on Toddler Bedtime Tips

Toddlers certainly have their own ideas about what they want or don’t want…especially at bedtime. Getting a cranky toddler to go to bed is no walk in the park.

The best thing you can do is to establish a bedtime routine for your toddler. Toddlers need routine to feel safe and also to learn their boundaries. It will take a little patience and perseverance, but gradually your toddler will start to respond.

A few Ideas:

Soothing Bath Before Bedtime - This could be considered one of the oldest and most successful bedtime routines for kids. A warm bath will soothe and help your toddler calm down before bed. Keep things calm and don’t add too many toys to the bath.

Johnson’s makes some wonderful bedtime bath products for toddlers.

Toddlers Love a Good Story – Your toddler loves listening to the sound of your voice. Engage him or her in a bedtime story to help drift them off to sleep. You can also try making up stories instead of reading. Include your child as one of the characters and talk about things your child will find interesting. Regular bedtime stories and reading to your child will help influence her interests and develop her creativity.

Sing a Lullaby – One of my personal favorites, and usually works like a charm. The long loved lullaby does just that, it helps lull babies and toddlers to sleep. Your voice and lulling rhythm of the song will give your toddler security and provide a sense of calm.

No Surprises – Not when it comes to bedtime. About 15 minutes before you start your bedtime routine let your toddler know. Try not to say it’s time for bed in 15 minutes instead say it’s time for a story or a bath in 15 minutes. Some toddlers will automatically go into overdrive if they hear the word bed.

Don’t Rush Things – Toddlers really don’t like being rushed. As a fully fledged parent of a toddler you already know the patience you need to exhibit doing the simplest things like getting your toddler in and out of the car. Bedtime is no different.

If you’re rushing and putting the emphasis on getting them to sleep then your toddler will pick up on that and lash out. Try to place the emphasis on spending quiet, quality time with your toddler. Allow yourself plenty of time so that you can get through the whole bedtime routine without rushing and be flexible and allow for little glitches in your routine.

Don’t Give In – Speak to your toddler before hand about your new bedtime routine, warn him soon before the time. When it’s time be firm and consistent. Even the most reasonable of toddlers, will push their boundaries when allowed. It’s a normal part of growing up and development. Remember your toddler looks to you to make all the grownup and important decisions for him.

Sleep is important for all of us and more so for young children. Be consistent in your bedtime routine and even if things don’t go well at first keep it up. If you’re consistent your toddler will eventually come around.

Answer for Donna...

Hey Donna, you had posted a comment as to what my Lanyard is going to look like. Well, it's a work in progress. I was at Michael's and saw two BEAUTIFUL strands of beads in my ALL TIME FAVORITE colors. Iridescent Clear Beads and Iridescent Pale Pink Beads. Now I just have to find some Sterling Silver Spacers that I love...maybe the ones with rhinestones or the ones with the tiny silver balls all the way around. I still have to figure out how to string it and hook the badge holder thingy on it too. It really doesn't need a clasp because it's an over the head kind of thing. I'll take any advice on putting this thing together so it's STAYS TOGETHER!!!

Travel Cord Organizer

Oooh and I just ordered my Travel Cord Organizer! Paid a total of $23.99 which included a coupon and free shipping. Yeah! Let's hope I find this useful. I have lots of gadgets and I am always going to the beach with all of them so it will be useful for more than just my China Trip.

When you're on the go, this bag is perfect for your surge protector plus electrical gadgets. No more worrying whether there will be enough outlets at the hotel. Storage bag is made especially for traveling with your surge protector. It holds a standard (8" - 10") power strip in the spine and unzips completely so it can be laid flat. The built-in hanger provides for easy out-of-the-way storing, while the seven pockets can hold cords, cables and devices such as cell phones, iPods™, etc. There's even pocket window labels for easy item identification and small zipped compartments for memory cards, jump drives and smaller items. Measures 19 1/2" L x 11 3/4" W when opened; 8" L x 11 3/4" W when closed. Surge protector and gadgets not included.

Countdown - Day #3

Weekend 10/18/08

Finally finished future Thank You Cards. Yippee! (Well at least the ones that require sparkles)


Picked up some memory for my mini Laptop
SanDisk SDSC 8GB $24.99 - $9 (for used ink cartridge reward) = $15.99

Went to a children's resale and found lots of goodies. See Giorgia's Enchanted Garden for my finds. (coming soon)

Mounted a Baby Gate in the Kitchen/Family Room.


Finally found a Frame for my Half the Sky Print. Love it. It was originally came with a print of a building in NYC. I ripped all the backing off, took out the print and replaced it with mine. Now all I have to do is buy some hardware to hang the the new print horizontally.

Working on redoing my bedroom and picked up my Florian Bench for the foot of my bed. It's so pretty. ...and in the process, completely trashed my house again! Story of my life!!!!!

Inspiration for my Bedroom

This is one of the first photos that I found that says Old Hollywood to me. I love the feeling I get from it. Don't really get the little side tables though...

Stuff you'll find in my new room that is reminiscent of this room above is the mirrored end table and the sheen in the bedspread.

Stuff you'll find in my new room that is reminiscent of this room above is the Bedspread. It looks exactly like mine. I also just got an end of bed bench. I can see GG hangins out on it early in the morning playing and watching cartoon while I'm still trying to sleep!

Stuff you'll find in my new room that is reminiscent of this room above is the mirrored chest of drawers sort of like mine and the sheen of the bedspread.


And yes, I'm over the top...I would love to have this is my room! If I could find the perfect chandelier there will be one in my room. It's got to be the right size, shape, color, sparkle factor and price. It must be PERFECT!!!! Otherwise it's better not to have one! So, for now...I don't have one. :)

Hopefully my room will be done by Christmas and I'll post some photos then. Feel free to post any suggestions. (FYI, I know it's too girlie and I like that)

Sony Camera Case

No, I don't have any Sony cameras or camcorder but I needed a travel bag that could hold all my stuff. I have a bag already by Lowepro that is AMAZING. I could probably throw it out my second story window without any harm to my equipment. It's a big backpack with a lot of padding and I just don't have that kind of space. Anyway, this Sony bag LCS-VA30 ranges from $25 to $50 online but found it in the clearance section for $8. What a BARGAIN! It's the PERFECT SIZE for my trip to China!!!

How Much Pirate?



You Are 60% Pirate



Garrrr, yer a true pirate down to yer bones.

Yer an originial sea dog, an' ye certainly have earned yer sea legs.

No one be goin' to accuse ye o' bein' a landlubber.

Ye got yer eye on the prize, an' yer willin' to go pillagin' fer some booty.

Countdown - Day #2

Tuesday 10/14/08

Stopped by Daycare GB & TT (C,GB,TT) to chat, get prices, availability
I changed my mind, I have a different favorite list now.

Figures, the one that I might not get in is my new favorite.
It used to be #2
Daycare C is GREAT but realistically not in my budget and no meals.
Daycare GB & TT are REALLY GOOD with Hot Lunch and two snacks.
Daycare TT is my new favorite and completely ironic...least expensive!!!

Almost Finished Thank You Cards. Yippee!

Picked up my NEW DRESSER that I have been wanting FOREVER
Hurt my back getting in from the car.
So now it sits, next to my downstairs TV, until I can find some friends to help me get it upstairs!
I LOVE IT, it's BEAUTIFUL.
I'm redoing my room, it's sad when your child's is prettier than yours.
I'm going for something different...Old Hollywood.
I will post some inspiration pictures soon!

Swung by ToysRUs and picked up TWO little Christmas Presents

New Airline Fee, this is next!!

Countdown - Day #1

I've got LOTS & LOTS of stuff to do before my daughter comes home. I'm sure you all know what I mean. In an effort to be somewhat productive I think I'm going to post here what I've done the previous night, after work, to help me get prepared for the big day! (sorry to bore you all)

Moday 10/13/08
To Michaels to get paper & envelopes for handmade Thank You Cards
Got Glitter & Glue because what's a Thank You without Bling! LOL
Sparkly Crystal Beads to make a custom Lanyard for travel.
Stopped by Daycare C (C,GB,TT) to chat, get prices, availability
Boy, prices sure did go up from when I first started this process!!
Worked on Thank You Cards. Almost Done. Yippee!
Worked on a project for a friend.

MINUTE CHOCOLATE MUG CAKE

Just found this on one of my newsletter!! Doesn't it sounds EASY, QUICK and YUMMY!!!

RECIPE: MINUTE CHOCOLATE MUG CAKE (from Cori F.)
1 Coffee Mug
4 tablespoons flour(that's plain flour, not self-rising)
4 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons baking cocoa
1 egg
3 tablespoons milk
3 tablespoons oil
3 tablespoons chocolate chips (optional)
Small splash of vanilla

Add dry ingredients to mug, and mix well. Add the egg and mix thoroughly. Pour in the milk and oil and mix well. Add the chocolate chips (if using) and vanilla, and mix again. Put your mug in the microwave and cook for 3 minutes at 1000 watts. The cake will rise over the top of the mug, but don't be alarmed! Allow to cool a little, and tip out onto a plate if desired. EAT! (this can serve 2 if you want to share!) And why is this the most dangerous cake recipe in the world? Because now we are all only 5 minutes away from chocolate cake at any time of the day or night! POST IT...in your recipe box, and shopping list.

A Different Perspective

Immense Loss; Walk a Mile in Baby’s Booties
--Written by Cynthia Hockman-Chupp, analogy courtesy of Dr. Kali Miller
Imagine for a moment…

You have met the person you've dreamed about all your life. He has every quality that you desire in a spouse. You plan for the wedding, enjoying every free moment with your fiancée. You love his touch, his smell, the way he looks into your eyes. For the first time in your life, you understand what is meant by "soul mate," for this person understands you in a way that no one else does. Your heart beats in rhythm with his. Your emotions are intimately tied to his every joy, his every sorrow.

The wedding comes. It is a happy celebration, but the best part is that you are finally the wife of this wonderful man. You fall asleep that night, exhausted from the day's events, but relaxed and joyful in the knowledge that you are next to the person who loves you more than anyone in the world…the person who will be with you for the rest of your life.

The next morning you wake up, nestled in your partner's arms. You open your eyes and immediately look for his face.

But IT'S NOT HIM! You are in the arms of another man. You recoil in horror. Who is this man? Where is your beloved?

You ask questions of the new man, but it quickly becomes apparent that he doesn't understand you. You search every room in the house, calling and calling for your husband. The new guy follows you around, trying to hug you, pat you on the back,...even trying to stroke your arm, acting like everything is okay.

But you know that nothing is okay. Your beloved is gone. Where is he? Will he return? When? What has happened to him?

Weeks pass. You cry and cry over the loss of your beloved. Sometimes you ache silently, in shock over what has happened. The new guy tries to comfort you. You appreciate his attempts, but he doesn't speak your language-either verbally or emotionally. He doesn't seem to realize the terrible thing that has happened...that your sweetheart is gone.

You find it difficult to sleep. The new guy tries to comfort you at bedtime with soft words and gentle touches, but you avoid him, preferring to sleep alone, away from him and any intimate words or contact.

Months later, you still ache for your beloved, but gradually you are learning to trust this new guy. He's finally learned that you like your coffee black, not doctored up with cream and sugar. Although you still don't understand his bedtime songs, you like the lilt of his voice and take some comfort in it.

More time passes. One morning, you wake up to find a full suitcase sitting next to the front door. You try to ask him about it, but he just takes you by the hand and leads you to the car. You drive and drive and drive. Nothing is familiar. Where are you? Where is he taking you?

You pull up to a large building. He leads you to an elevator and up to a room filled with people. Many are crying. Some are ecstatic with joy. You are confused. And worried.

The man leads you over to the corner. Another man opens his arms and sweeps you up in an embrace. He rubs your back and kisses your cheeks, obviously thrilled to see you.

You are anything but thrilled to see him. Who in the world is he? Where is your beloved? You reach for the man who brought you, but he just smiles (although he seems to be tearing up, which concerns you), pats you on the back, and puts your hand in the hands of the new guy. The new guy picks up your suitcase and leads you to the door. The familiar face starts openly crying, waving and waving as the elevator doors close on you and the new guy.

The new guy drives you to an airport and you follow him, not knowing what else to do. Sometimes you cry, but then the new guy tries to make you smile, so you grin back, wanting to "get along." You board a plane. The flight is long. You sleep a lot, wanting to mentally escape from the situation.

Hours later, the plane touches down. The new guy is very excited and leads you into the airport where dozens of people are there to greet you. Light bulbs flash as your photo is taken again and again. The new guy takes you to another guy who hugs you. Who is this one? You smile at him. Then you are taken to another man who pats your back and kisses your cheek. Then yet another fellow gives you a big hug and messes your hair.

Finally, someone (which guy is this?) pulls you into his arms with the biggest hug you've ever had. He kisses you all over your cheeks and croons to you in some language you've never heard before.

He leads you to a car and drives you to another location. Everything here looks different. The climate is not what you're used to. The smells are strange. Nothing tastes familiar, except for the black coffee. You wonder if someone told him that you like your coffee black.

You find it nearly impossible to sleep. Sometimes you lie in bed for hours, staring into the blackness, furious with your husband for leaving you, yet aching from the loss. The new guy checks on you. He seems concerned and tries to comfort you with soft words and a mug of warm milk. You turn away, pretending to go to asleep.

People come to the house. You can feel the anxiety start to bubble over as you look into the faces of all the new people. You tightly grasp the new guy's hand. He pulls you closer. People smile and nudge one other, marveling at how quickly you've fallen in love. Strangers reach for you, wanting to be a part of the happiness.

Each time a man hugs you, you wonder if he will be the one to take you away. Just in case, you keep your suitcase packed and ready. Although the man at this house is nice and you're hanging on for dear life, you've learned from experience that men come and go, so you just wait in expectation for the next one to come along.

Each morning, the new guy hands you a cup of coffee and looks at you expectantly. A couple of times the pain and anger for your husband is so great that you lash out, sending hot coffee across the room, causing the new guy to yelp in pain. He just looks at you, bewildered. But most of the time you calmly take the cup. You give him a smile. And wait. And wait. And wait.

Must Save $ for

Reminder to Self...
These are the things that add up that I keep forgetting I need to save for:
Medical Insurance Deductable for child $1,000
3 post placement visits @ $1,050 ($350 each)
International Dr for Review of Referral $400-$500 Philadelphia Childrens Hospital
or International Dr in Delaware $350
or International Dr in Chicago $175
Daycare Deposit $900
CarSeat that I need upon our arrival $275
Baby Monitor I want $200
Care Package & Additional Photos $100
Translated Care Pachage Letter $25
Shipping of Homemade Care Package @ $30-$35
Photo Session @ BabiesRUs or anywhere $???
50 Thank You Cards @ $60 (yeah, I have to personally design)
50 Announcements @ $60 (yeah, I have to personally design these to)
Stamps @ $42
Prescription Meds for me and G for travel $100 (recommended)
Stock Pantry $150
Birthday Party if close $???
Christening $???
Diaper, Wipes, Baby Food & Formula $1,000,000
Printing of Photos & Enlargements $500
Printing of Digital Lifebook approx. 64 pages $255
Suggestions on a part time job I can do at home on weeknights or weekends!! LOL
Please feel free to add to my list!!! Stephe

Do's and Don'ts for Grown-Ups

I found this article online and I thought I would share it with all of you.
CrossCultural Adoption The Do's and Don'ts for Grown-Ups
By Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz

International adoption by families in the United States has increased tremendously in the last decade, adding to America's reputation as a melting pot on an even more familial level. Parents and children of these families are sure to encounter numerous questions which must be answered carefully to avoid devastating a child's sense of self and instead foster love, acceptance, and belonging.
So just what are the best ways for parents to answer questions about a child's adoption? (And what questions should the rest of us avoid asking?) Read on for a list of the "do's and don'ts."

What You Should Do
Do treat her like any other kid.
It may be difficult and take a while for adopted children to feel like they belong within their extended families. Treating these children like they're "nothing special" can go a long way toward making them feel at home and comfortable within the group.
Avoid the temptation to spoil her because she didn't have everything that the other kids had in the first few months or years of her life. The most valuable gifts you can offer these children are patience, routine, and consistency -- and most of all, unexaggerated expressions of love and devotion.

Do support her when curious strangers ask questions.
When curious (and sometimes thoughtless) strangers ask questions or feel the need to comment on the circumstances of the adoption, do not let them lead you into uncomfortable territory. Instead, gently steer them back to more suitable small talk or respond in such a way that shifts the conversation to positive adoption language that in turn lets the child know that you are on her side.

Do respect her privacy.
Adopted children have the same need for and the right to privacy as you do. They do not want their entire life story being told to strangers. If she hears you discussing the intimate details of her origins, she will likely feel embarrassed. Until the child is old enough to decide for herself how much information she would like to share regarding her background, please respect her privacy.

Do treat prospective adoptive parents the same as expectant parents.
Adopting a child is just as exciting for soon-to-be parents as being pregnant. They feel the same way all expectant parents do -- overjoyed, overwhelmed, nervous, impatient, and most of all, excited. Don't be afraid to ask adopting parents about these feelings. After all, adoption is neither a secret nor a source of embarrassment or shame.

Do acknowledge and celebrate the differences.
One of the best things you can do to show your support as well as your love for the adopted child in your life is to learn a bit about the culture and history of her birth country. Read a couple of books, especially travel books. Even if you have no plans to travel there, there is no better way to get the feeling of another country.

What You Should Not Do

Don't introduce her as adopted.
The pain this inflicts on the child is obvious. The child is made to feel inferior, like she will never be considered a real part of the family. The rule is simple: Don't ever, ever do this. (Adoption is a process that brings families together not a label of who the child is.~Stephe)

Don't say how "lucky" she is.
After hearing this enough times, the child can be made to feel like a lifelong charity case, rather than the cherished child she is. Yes, she is lucky, but so is any child who has a supportive, loving family. And we parents are lucky, too, to have been able to create this loving, supportive family.

Don't assume adoption is a second choice.
The reasons people choose to adopt are as varied and unique as the people themselves. While it is true that many choose adoption because of infertility, it is also true that many choose adoption for a myriad of other reasons as well. Many people choose to adopt not because they are out of other options, but rather because they believe that adoption is the best choice for them.

Don't jump to conclusions about the birth mother.
Often thought of as weak, irresponsible, cheap, and worthless, birth mothers often suffer a lifetime of pain far greater than that of childbirth. Please don't jump to the wrong conclusion that these women are any different than you and me or that they love their children any less.

Most cross-cultural adoptive families know little or nothing about the circumstances that led their child's birth mother to relinquish her child. What they do know is that they love their children's birth mothers because they are a part of their children and it is because of them that their beloved children are who they are.

Don't tell us we're sure to have "our own" now.
She is our own. Those parents who choose adoption because of infertility do not secretly harbor lifelong yearnings for a biological child. Having "our own" is now irrelevant; the child we have is the one we want and it is inconceivable that we could love or want any child more. Like all parents, we have the best.

So Much to Do!!!

Let's see, I was surfing blogs and stumbled onto my friend Karen's blog this morning. She posted a list of all the things that she needs to get done this month! GREAT LIST! Karen, I'm copying your idea and creating a list of my own!

1. Get Child Abuse Clearance in and Mail out Homestudy for 797-C RENEWAL!!!!!

2. CLEAN the house!

3. Donate as much stuff as I can to just get rid of it...even the stuff in the shed.

4. Do Logos for Pandas and open shops.

5. Purchase car seat ,baby monitor and a bunch of other things I will still need for G's arrival.

6. Christmas - not doing Christmas Decorations this year but I will complete G's ECG & Friends Tree and I will have her tree up in her room.

7. Design referral announcements

8. Get carpet steam cleaned

9. Pack and Repack

10. Get a list ready for xmas gifts. I might be buying them in China!!!

11. Baby-proof a few parts of the house. Mount the top-of-stairs gate.

12. Order Thank You Cards from Kinko's
13. Finalize G's Care Package and Get all the photos that I need for them with labels! Plus figure out what I am going to do for a letter! Suggestions for the letter Welcome!!! Everything else is done so I'm not changing. LOL.
14. Pray my bedroom dresser arrives and is swapped out with old one.
15. Get my "Travel Packet" Completed. (my personal guide)
16. Purchase my Travel Cord Organizer from Bed, Bath and Beyond
17. Finalize Daycare
18. Finalize Pediatrician.
19. Order NEW MONEY. (Done)
20. Paint my foyer, stairway and 2nd floor hallway.
...and the list just goes on...

Dress Rehearsal Over!!

Well, the Dress Rehearsal is over. Looking forward to the real thing next month. Fingers Crossed!

Pledge



"BEIJING, Sept. 16 (Xinhua) -- China's Health Ministry pledges free health care for all babies sickened after drinking contaminated formula.

Deputy Health Minister, Ma Xiaowei, said all medical agencies should prepare to treat babies for kidney stones as more cases could be uncovered as the investigation continues.

He ordered all public health authorities and medical institutions give priority to the diagnosis of suspect cases and provide treatment.

"Hospitals should try their best to meet rising demands for diagnosis and treatment because the number of parents who take their children for medical check-ups could rise drastically in the future," Ma told health, finance and food safety officials throughout China via teleconference Tuesday.

All infants who had been fed with Sanlu milk powder for between three and six months in the past year and have shown symptoms of kidney stones should be treated with top priority, added Ma.

An estimated 1,253 babies developed kidney stones after drinking the tainted milk powder. Two died as a result.

China's dairy giant, Sanlu Group, which is at the heart of the toxic food scandal, apologized to the public for its contaminated milk powder."

More Milk Scandal

BEIJING, China (CNN) -- The head of China's quality watchdog is reported to have resigned over the tainted baby milk scandal that has killed four children and sickened nearly 53,000 others.

A baby is held down as he is given an ultrasound scan for kidney stones in a hospital in Wuhan, Hubei province.

1 of 2 The official Xinhua News Agency said Li Changjiang had quit with the approval of China's State Council. Li's agency is responsible for ensuring that China's food supply chain is safe.

Monday's resignation came hours after the World Health Organization said the scandal had highlighted flaws in the country's entire food supply chain.

The chemical melamine blamed for causing kidney stones and kidney failure has been detected in formula milk powder from 22 dairies across China.

The crisis was initially thought to have been confined to baby milk powder but tests have found melamine in samples of liquid milk taken from China's two largest dairy producers, Mengniu Dairy Group and Yili Industrial Group, as well as Shanghai-based Bright Dairy.

WHO China representative Hans Troedsson said on Monday quality issues could occur anywhere from the farm to the retail outlet.

He said "it's clearly something that is not acceptable and needs to be rectified and corrected," according to The Associated Press. Troedsson said the WHO was discussing with officials how to strengthen China's food quality system.

Chinese Premier Wen Jiabao has called milk manufacturers "heartless" and promised stricter laws to protect the public.

China's Health Ministry said Sunday that about 13,000 children were hospitalized, while another 40,000 had undergone outpatient treatment for illnesses related to suspected melamine-tainted milk products.

The scandal has spread beyond the mainland with melamine being found in three Chinese-made dairy products in Singapore.

The country's Agri-Food and Veterinary Authority said tests on "White Rabbit Creamy Candy" showed that it was contaminated with melamine and it ordered stores to remove the product from shelves.

Taiwan announced Monday it was banning the importation of all dairy products from China because of melamine contamination in milk supplies on the mainland, Taiwan's Health Ministry said Monday.

And a second child in Hong Kong has been diagnosed with a kidney stone after drinking the tainted milk as worried parents continued to take their children for health checkups, the government said Monday, AP reported.

The 4-year-old boy was in hospital in a stable condition, the Hong Kong government said in a statement. A three-year-old girl was sickened by a suspected melamine-tainted milk over the weekend -- the first known illness outside of mainland China.

The Chinese premier visited Beijing hospitals and a supermarket Sunday to show his concern for the crisis.

"What we need to do now is to ensure that nothing like this happens in the future, not only in dairy products, but in all foods," he said. "Manufacturers and owners of dairy companies should show more morality and social responsibility in these cases. They are heartless, so we have to create strict law and legislation. I'm sorry."

Investigators arrested two brothers who sold milk used to produce the contaminated baby milk powder last week. They could face death if convicted, according to China Daily, a state-run newspaper.

The raw milk had been watered down and the chemical added to fool quality checks, the newspaper said. Melamine is commonly used in coatings and laminates, wood adhesives, fabric coatings, ceiling tiles and flame retardants. Watch CNN visit the company at the center of the scandal »

But anger has been directed not just at the producers accused of adulterating their milk to increase profits, but also at government regulators, Time magazine reported.

"Xinhua was quick to blame the dairy industry for their skewed rules, but what it didn't say was that the government also played a part in that ugly game," the magazine quoted a blogger, identified as sadmoon109, as saying.

Health experts say ingesting melamine can lead to kidney stones, urinary tract ulcers, and eye and skin irritation. It also robs infants of much-needed nutrition.

Thousands of tons of the tainted milk powder have been recalled.

Melamine is the same industrial contaminant from China that poisoned and killed thousands of U.S. dogs and cats last year.

The chemical, a byproduct of plastic manufacturing, can be used to mimic high-protein additives. Learn more about the chemical melamine »

A senior dairy analyst said Chinese farmers were cutting corners to cope with rising costs for feed and labor.

"Before the melamine incident, I know they could have been adding organic stuff, say animal urine or skin," Chen Lianfang of Beijing Orient Agribusiness Consultant told Time.

"Basically, anything that can boost the protein reading."

More Milk Scares

Fury as China baby milk scandal escalates
By Clifford Coonan in BeijingThursday, 18 September 2008

Li Dongyang, an eight-month-old child who suffered from kidney stones receives medical treatment at a hospital in Hefei, Anhui province September 17, 2008. China said on Wednesday a third infant had died from drinking milk contaminated with toxic melamine and 6,244 infants were sick as four officials were sacked amid a widening scandal.

Frightened, angry parents took their babies for testing at hospitals all over China today to see if their children have been made sick by the greed of unscrupulous farmers and negligent food companies.

Parents are furious after four children died and hundreds are sick following the discovery of the dangerous chemical melamine in baby milk formula.

Thousands more are at risk, raising fears that this is just the tip of the iceberg.
At Beijing's Capital Institute of Paediatrics hospital, hundreds of worried parents carried their blissfully unaware babies in their arms.

The queue stretched from the administrative building back out into the yard behind the building.
"Of course we're angry – the company should have made routine checks, not just because of the discovery of this chemical," said Song Xuejian, who was minding her 14-month-old granddaughter Miting, while her daughter stood in the queue.

The health scare first emerged after China's biggest dairy, the Sanlu Group, revealed its milk powder contained melamine, which is used to make it look like the milk contains more protein than it really does. A subsequent investigation showed that 22 of 109 Chinese dairy producers, including top brands, made products adulterated with the substance.

Miting had been drinking one of the formula brands on the list of contaminated products.

"I was very frightened and worried when I heard the news first. Like many people, we have only one child in our family, so we're very worried. If she's okay, we'll all be very relieved," said Song.

As well as fear and anger, there is shock. There is something so basic about milk for a baby. If not even the simplest human needs are immune from money-grabbing criminals and corrupt officials, then what is left?

Ji Chuntang, the mayor of Shijiazhuang, capital of Hebei province, where Sanlu has its headquarters, , has been fired, , while Sanlu's chairwoman Tian Wenhua has been detained by police.

The scandal took a long time to come to light and the first baby died back in May. Sanlu is 43-per cent owned by New Zealand's Fonterra Co-op.

Their initial approaches were ignored, possibly for fear of souring the Olympic spirit, and New Zealand's Prime Minister, Helen Clark, said she ordered her officials to bypass regional authorities and inform Beijing directly.

There have been 18 arrests so far and the Hebei police said it confiscated 300 kilos of suspected chemicals, mostly melamine. One suspect, surnamed Su, told police that from February 2007 to July 2008 he bought 200 20-kilo sacks of melamine, and sold them all to milk suppliers. Which raises the possibility that this has been going on for a lot longer than a couple of months.

In a Beijing supermarket, expectant mother Zhu Weiwei, 31, a maths teacher, said she feels lucky her baby hasn't been born yet.

"If he or she was born a few months ago, I think I would also feed him or her with Yili or Meng Niu milk powder. Those brands are quite famous," said Zhu.

"I feel dismayed about our domestic brands. I heard some officials were fired. But it cannot compensate those poor babies. Money can't do everything. How can those people do such a terrible thing to babies for money? I will of course buy foreign brands in future," she said.

The "Made in China" brand has been badly tarnished in recent years by a rash of food and product safety scares, ranging from lead paint in toys to dumplings laced with pesticide sold in Japan, to toxic fish and poisonous cough medicine.

The government swore it would improve testing and safety procedures after last year's scandals, which culminated in the execution of its sacked food and drug safety czar.

But there have been whispers that authorities tried to cover up the revelations of toxic baby formula initially so as not to sour the Olympic atmosphere. The first baby to die, a five-month-old boy, passed away on May 1, four months before the scandal became public.

Shen Xiaohong, a PR manager, 28, said she is not buying domestic milk anymore.

"I don't want to spend my money to poison myself," she said. "And to think these were "Inspection-free products"."

"Inspection-free" is a special status awarded to the most trusted food producers, and a slogan used by them in advertising. This is one of the reasons why this scandal has really shocked people in China, and the status has been revoked by the government.

Chinese webizens have started using grim sign-offs on their instant messenger programmes to register their horror at the food scandal. After a month of pride in China's national achievements, the food scandal has

reignited negative sentiments about China's abilities to compete internationally.

"We work hard for six months, then suddenly we return to the pre-Olympic era". "Drink a glass of milk a day, wipe out a country!", "Drink milk, kill the next generation" and, perhaps most tellingly, "Foreign milk costs money, domestic milk costs lives".

Melamine found in Milk Powder

Melamine found in Milk Powder: Infants get Kidney Stones One confirmed Death
According to the AP Newswire 432 children in China have been sickened by infant formula tainted with Melamine.

There is one confirmed death.

Apparently, a Chinese dairy that sold milk powder linked to kidney stones in infants knew it contained melamine. They failed to recall the tainted milk products because, “grocers wouldn’t return it”. Uh, okay? I kinda don’t get that either.

In any event. If you or anyone you know and love shops at an ethnic market with any regularity (I do!) please pass this important information along. Although much of the tainted formula has been seized, and many executives are in custody (Yes they did this on purpose) some might have made it’s way to other countries.

Cuz, ya’ know, the guys who add deadly chemicals like Melamine to milk in order to turn a profit aren’t all that concerned about customs laws either.

From the AP:

The official Xinhua News Agency reported Saturday that the dairy, Sanlu Group Col, was ordered to stop production as the number of sick babies rose to 432.

A Health Ministry statement gave no indication why Sanlu Group Co., China’s biggest milk powder producer, failed to warn consumers immediately. Employees who answered the phone Saturday at the ministry’s news office and at China’s product safety agency said they had no more information.

In August, Sanlu’s testing revealed melamine in the milk powder, a ministry statement said. Melamine is a toxic chemical used in plastics that contaminated pet food last year.

Remember when the puppies died and everyone was outraged? Please, let’s pay attention to what we put into our children’s bodies too.
Tell a friend. This one matters.

Travel Sizes

Are you a sucker like me? I walk into our Christmas Tree Shop and see that they've done some rearranging. They also added 5 walls of Travel Item stuff!!! Here are photos of 3 out of the 5 isles! I almost BUSTED my budget. I so love all this small stuff!!! It was a dream come true!! LOL.

Recipe for ME! (that's about right)


The Recipe For Stephanie



3 parts Friendship
2 parts Fearlessness
1 part Brilliance
Splash of Savvy
Finish off with whipped cream


Open Letter

Hi to all my family & friends,

As if you didn’t know, I am planning to receive a referral for my daughter! I’ve talked about this for quite a while and it looks like the time has finally come. Pirate is also ready for a sister!

Anyway, I’m very pleased & excited to make this announcement that China is almost at my LID (log in date). There is an itty bitty chance that I will receive my referral in the beginning of October but I am thinking it will be the beginning of November. So, officially, here is a little bit of what I know…and what I don’t.

WHO
I am requesting a 0-18 month old daughter at the time of her referral. I don’t know who she is yet, there are no pre-existing pictures to choose from or anything like that – China doesn’t generally do pre-identified adoptions, except in a few special needs or older child (meaning older than 5 or 6) cases. I also have made my final decision on an American name for her, It will be Giorgia (pronounced Georgia with nicknames of Giorgi and/or GiGi) Danette (my middle name too), her Chinese Orphanage Name will become her second middle name, and then we will also share my last name. Most adoptive parents choose to keep her Chinese Orphanage Name as either her full name or a middle name. Our children come to us to us with nothing but their beautiful faces and a name that those who cared for them gave them until they found a family. It’s a way of preserving the one little last tie that they have to their birth country. Yes, it’s a lot of names but I have decided that when she gets older she can choose to drop one or keep them both. I am fine whichever she chooses to drop or to keep them both.

WHEN
I just finished the process of collecting the documents FOR THE THIRD TIME!! I started in May of 2005. My documents made their way to China to be translated on January 13, 2006. This is referred to as my DTC date. (Dossier to China) Then my documents are officially registered to the CCAA in China on February 17, 2006. This is referred to as my LID date. (Log in Date) A referral date is the KEY DATE in which the dossiers are processed and the order in which all international adoptive parents receive their referral for a Non-Special Needs Child. When I began this process, A referral took about 6-7 months but as you know, times have changed and I’ve been already waiting 31 months! When my time comes, my agency will give me “The Call”. I will receive basic information and a tiny photo, sometimes 3 and a 1-page medical report. I have 1-2 days to accept the referral. My agency will then mail out my acceptance letter and I will wait for a Consulate Appointment and Travel Approval. I will travel in about 6-8 weeks. I believe I am looking at a December/January Travel timeline.

WHERE
To China, of course! My Agency has a full time facilitator in China who accompanies all their adoption groups (usually 8-12 families), and their trips are usually 14-16 days. Lucky for me I know most of the adopting parents I am traveling with!!!

HOW
One big milestone is the homestudy, which “approves” me to be a parent. My social worker Aileen needed 9 reference letters (from friends, relatives & coworkers), local police clearance, state child abuse clearance, guardianship papers, various health & financial statements, and an autobiography from me. I was required to have two home visits with Aileen and two office visits with Diana. Her report is now written and in my hands (it’s 8 pages long). She will also be required to visit us twice after the adoption. I’ve repeated this process now for the THIRD TIME!

The 2nd biggest milestone is getting INS clearance to bring an “orphan” into the country. There’s a specific form required, which I filed with the INS back in May along with copies of my birth certificate. They also took fingerprints from me, which go to an FBI clearance center, and then they needed my homestudy report. I received my first INS form with the clearance in mid-July of 2005, about 2 weeks after they received the homestudy. I’ve repeated this process now for the THIRD TIME!

Finally, there are the rest of the documents that make up a “Dossier” that gets sent to China. These include new physical forms from my doctor that are in specific formats decreed by China, a specific form for a financial statement, proof of employment, copies of our birth certificates, copies of passports, and an “application” letter to China stating my request to adopt. Counting the homestudy and the INS clearance form, there are 14 documents in all. Almost all of these documents need to be notarized, then certified by the state, then authenticated by the Chinese consulate (I was covered by the one in DC). I also put together selections of 10 pictures of my family at home and doing various activities. They then send the dossier to China, where it gets translated, and then the waiting for the referral begins. The “matching” is done by a government agency in Beijing called the CCAA (Chinese Center for Adoption Affairs) and is a pretty secretive process.

For those of you with Web access, there are a number of sites that discuss “the paperchase process”, if you’re interested in more details I’ll send some sites along.

By the way, travel in China is very safe - even immediately after the US bombing of the Chinese embassy in Belgrade, adoption groups were traveling and referrals were still made. There is almost nothing in the political world that affects the adoption process, and although the Chinese are not fond of the US government, they are very friendly toward adopting families.

In the meantime, I’ll keep you all updated. I’ll let you know of progress as soon as I hear anything!

Love, Stephe & Pirate

BabiesRUs Issue

FYI, I have strong feelings against BabiesRUs. I'll still shop there...but with caution.

If you return anything without a receipt, you will get the lowest price of that product back...no problem, I get that.

This is my problem.

GIFT RECIEPTS MEAN NOTHING AT BABIESRUS. THE RECIEPIENT OF THE GIFT WILL NOT GET THE $ BACK THAT YOU PAID FOR THE PRODUCT. YOU WILL GET THE LOWEST PRICE
THAT PRODUCT HAS BEEN.

Example. My best friend went to deliver her second child. I didn't know if it was a girl or boy so I went to Babiesrus and bought 2 outfits. One boy, one girl and had a gift receipt for both. I paid $20 for each. I figured I'd return the one that wasn't needed. She had a girl so I went back to return the boy outfit. I couldn't my receipt anywhere but I figured I'd just use the gift receipt. Well, with the gift receipt they would refund me $7.95 even though the day before I purchased the outfit for $20. They credit you the lowest price the product has ever been including a sale a month ago, even though the purchaser paid full price and had a gift receipt. THIS IS THEIR POLICY. The "Gift receipt" basically only confirms that the item was purchased at a "babiesrus" . I did get my money back because I completely freaked out in the store and made a scene. I was beside myself. I'm not usually that way. Do you realize how many people are getting ripped off from this POLICY!! Okay, sorry. Just wanted to share my dissappointment with BabiesRUs. They are a great "one-stop shop" and I still purchase from there but I when I purchase a gift, I do so with cash and hand them the actual receipt if they need to exchange. I don't think this will work if you pay with a credit card.

Answering Questions

These are some Q & A's that I've heard throughout the paperchase, I've saved them and thought I would post them all together. Maybe I'll be one of the lucky ones and not have to deal with some of these. I also post them because these questions could come from sincere family and friends that just don't realize what they are saying. So, it's a little etiquette lesson for all those unfamiliar with the international adoption program. Hope I don't offend anyone.
(Update - this is just in from my guy coworker... Coworker: Does she know you yet? Me: (smartass glance) yes, she calls me every weekend! Coworker: that was a stupid questions right? Me: It was sweet of you to think of us!!!)

Q: Where is she from?
What they’re thinking: She clearly looks different from you - she most likely was born in another country.
A: What you should say: "She’s from Delaware (or wherever you live).” When I’m feeling generous of spirit I might add, “but she was born in China, if that’s what you mean.”

Q: Where are her real parents?
What they’re thinking: Who are her biological parents and why didn’t they keep her?
A: What you should say: “We are her real parents; where her biological parents are is not your business.”

Q: She is so lucky!
What they’re thinking: She’s lucky she no longer has to live in an orphanage or in foster care.
A: What you should say: “I’m the lucky one, to have been blessed with the perfect child for us. I can’t imagine my life without her.”

Q: Wasn’t it expensive?
What they’re thinking: They’ve heard about the high costs associated with adoption – they can’t imagine it’s affordable.
A: What you should say: “The expenses we incurred were similar to those our insurance company paid out when our sons were born. I’d be happy put you in touch with our agency and they can go over funding options with you if you’re interested in exploring adoption.”

Remember … your only responsibility is to your child. When faced with a difficult question or comment, the only response you should give should be the one you want your child to hear. I frequently ask my daughter if she minds me sharing information about her life with others. When the day comes that she says yes, that’s when I’ll start saying, “I’m sorry, that’s a personal question,” and I’ll just walk away.
Other Q & A's
Q: Where are Gigi's real mom?
A: Gigi's real mom is mom who is raising her, me. She also has birthparents in China who gave birth to her.

Q: Where's Gigi from?
A: She's from Delaware. She was born in China, but she is now a U.S. citizen.

Q: Why doesn't Gigi look like her mom?
A: She was born in China and her mom adopted her when she was a baby.

Q: Does she speak Chinese?
A: No. Gigi came to the U.S.when she was several months old. She was not speaking any language at the time! Children speak the language of the country they are raised in.

Q: Does she eat with chopsticks?
A: Chinese kids are not born knowing how to use chopsticks. In the same way that American kids learn to use spoons, forks, and knives, using chopsticks is learned by Chinese kids. Here in America Gigi will learned to eat with a fork, spoon, and knife, and also with chopsticks.

Q: Will she be a Communist? Buddhist?
A: No. Belief systems are learned (whether by choice or not). We are not born with them.


Q: Any question that is rude or inappropriate...
A: Don't say a word to them just your back to them and address your child saying: (I am paraphrasing) "Some people aren't brought up correctly and you can learn from their bad behavior how not to behave to people."

Q: How much did she cost?

A: She's priceless. Why do you ask? (just in case they're potential A-parents)


Q: Do you have any children of your own?"
A: No, we just hire this little girl here to act as our daughter on weekends. You would not believe the contract her agent negotiated.

Q: Oh, come on, you know what I mean.
A: I'm sorry, what did you say? Did you say that I know you're mean? Well, I suppose I do. I must say, I didn't believe it when the other mothers told me - I prefer to make up my own mind about people - but yes, I guess now I do know that you are, in fact, mean. Pity.


Q: Why couldn't you have children of your own?
A: For the same reason you couldn't believe it when your mother told you that someday, if you kept on asking offensive questions, someone would put their boot so far up your ass you'd be flossing with shoelaces. It's just one of life's great mysteries.

Q: Are you going to tell her that she's adopted?
A: Yes, we became a family through adoption.

Q: Can you imagine anyone giving up their child?
A: It's complicated.

Q: Was it just too hard to adopt a white/American baby?"
A: Oh, I didn't want a white/American baby."

Q: She's such a lucky little girl!
A: Nope, I'm the LUCKY one!

Q: Why didn't you adopt an American baby?
A: She is an American baby.

Q: With all the children in this country who need good homes, why would you go overseas to adopt?
A: How many adopted children do you have?

Q: I think it's wonderful that some women can adopt, but I could never love anyone who wasn't my blood.
A: Oh, so you married a blood relative?

Q: How much did she cost?
A: How much did yours cost?

Q: What is she?
A: A girl!
Q: Is she able to eat american food?
A: uhhhh...yes!
Q: I know someone who adopted. They had to give those kids back because they were so messed up and couldn't adjust. (well more a statement)
A: What I want to say: "Are you SERIOUSLY saying this out loud in front of my children!?" What my kids hear: "Our adoption isn't permanent; it's subject to my good behavior." What the speaker SHOULD have said: "I know someone who adopted. It can have its own challenges." My response: "Yes, parenting is a big responsibility and it doesn't always turn out like we plan. But adoption is forever, just like with a biological family." (http://namastechild.blogspot.com)

Q: Do you know his real mom?
A: What I want to say, "I am his real mom." What the kids hear: "I have a real mom? Who are you then?" What the speaker MEANT to say to avoid raising my ire: "Do you have contact with their birth families?" My answer then: "We have limited contact with them, and respect them very much for the loving choice they made." (http://namastechild.blogspot.com)
Q: Something along the lines of "Are you babysitting?" "Are you a foster mom?" "They don't look like you" (ya think!) or the long stare that says, "What is THIS family situation?"
A: What I say: "We're an adoptive family." What the speaker SHOULD have said: nothing. Or-you guessed it- "Are you an adoptive family?" (http://namastechild.blogspot.com)
Q: You're just like Angelina Jolie!"
A: What I want to say: "No. I definitely am not (although I love her). But if sharing one common cause makes you just like someone else, then I guess I'm her clone, despite my five foot nothing-ness, ponytail and sweat pants in the Walmart aisle." What the speaker SHOULD have said: Nothing. I really am tired of this one. Not that she isn't a great person...I just don't like being compared to anyone, and I certainly don't adopt to be celeb. (http://namastechild.blogspot.com)
QUESTIONS THAT JUST DON'T NEED A RESPONSE...

I wish I could just go buy a baby
I thought she'd be some crackbaby or something
It’s sad how they just throw them away
Asian chicks are hot
I never thought I'd see the day when you could buy babies on the internet
I just don't think I could raise someone else's kid

Stressed

I am REDOING my entire HOMESTUDY over AGAIN!!! It's OFFICIAL, I HATE paperwork! :(

36 TIME-TESTED BABY-CALMERS

· Wearing baby in a sling
· Dancing with baby
· Swinging baby
· Car rides
· Pushing baby in a carriage
· Taking a walk
· Bouncing on a trampoline
· Nursing while walking with baby
· Draping baby over a beach ball
· Comfort sucking: nursing, pacifiers, sucking on the move
· Music, tapes of womb sounds, heartbeats
· Echo baby's cry
· Tape recordings of baby's own cries
· Tick-tock of clock or pendulum swing of grandfather clock
· Singing lullabies
· Vibrating, humming gadgets wrapped in diaper or blanket
· Running water
· Tape of environmental sounds
· Metronome
· Ceiling fan; bathroom fan
· Sounds of vacuum cleaner, dishwasher, washer-dryer, air conditioner
· Show baby your "silly face"
· Magic mirror
· Fire in fireplace
· Gazing at traffic
· Watching parent on exercise machine
· Watching television or video
· Infant massage
· Warm fuzzy
· Neck nestle
· Nestle nursing
· A warm bath together
· Colic carries
· Eliminating bothersome foods or changing formula
· Slowing down mother's lifestyle and changing her expectations
· Creating the most peaceful home environment.

OMG - Bling Water

I've now seen it all and I WANT ONE!!! It's sooo pretty...


"It's old news and you cool kids probably have already delicately sipped down your $40 bottles of water and tossed the swarovski crystal embellished bottles away but i thought it may be worth bling-ing back up again. bling h2o prices range from $20-$480. not that you should spend $480 on a bottle full of Tennessee tapwater but why not a $20 bottle or two for the sake of a bling-themed bridal shower? show off a little!" You can find them here.

How to Stay Calm...

How To Stay Calm When Your Baby Won’t Stop Crying

It’s the middle of the night (or the middle of the day) and your baby just won’t stop crying. You’ve pulled out all the tricks to try and calm baby down (rocking, checking the diaper, feeding, burping, making baby comfortable, playing soothing music, etc…) but none of them are working. It’s during these moments when it’s easy to snap and lose it. These crying bouts do take a toll on the mother and can make you anxious.

So, what can mothers do to stay calm during these stressful moments? Here are five helpful hints that you can do to stay calm:

Keep your perspective. Babies cry and this doesn’t mean that you’re failing as a mother. Sometimes, they just need to cry and there is nothing you can do but ride it out. Don’t blow the situation out of proportion.
Relax. Babies can sense if you’re tense. Take a deep breath, count to ten, close your eyes and imagine yourself in the Caribbean soaking up the sun, listen to music, or think of something that makes you laugh.
Ask for help. There is no shame in asking for help. Sometimes a five minute break from the situation is all you need to gain your composure. Let your spouse, another family member, or friend take over.
Take a walk. Put your baby in a stroller and get outside. Work out your stress.
Express yourself. Sometimes it just helps to speak out loud what your feeling. We’re not suggesting you yell at your baby, but, rather, call a friend to vent or talk to yourself.

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